"...
unless we prefer to be made fools of by our own illusions, we
shall, by carefully analyzing every fascination, extract from
it a portion of our own personality, like a quintessence, and
slowly come to recognize that we meet ourselves time and again
in a thousand disguises on the path of life." The Practice
of Psychotherapy, Carl G. Jung CW 16
“The
paradox of relationship will always be that rather than solve
our problems it brings us new problems, new complexities. But
that we also grow immensely from these problems… these complexities.
In short… the greatest gift of relationship proves to be
that as the result of encountering each other we are obliged to
grow much larger than we had planned.” What Matters
Most: Living a More Considered Life, James Hollis, PhD