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The Zodiac & Soul Mates

"The heart has its own reasons that the mind cannot comprehend..."
Plato

Welcome to "The Zodiac & Soul Mates!" I'm your astrologer host, Dr Z... and it would appear that you've just now stumbled into an extremely crowded room at The Zodiac Master. "The Zodiac & Soul Mates" is the single most visited section at the Zodiac Master.

So... please mind your manners, give everyone a little elbow room, and try not to unnecessarily jostle any other web surfers while you're here.

Why that crowded?
"Relationship" and/or finding one's "soul mate" has become one of the top (if not the most important) guiding beliefs of our day and time!

This modern day quest of finding the "perfect relationship" has taken on mythic, larger-than-life, archetypal proportions!

Yep!
"Relationship" and finding the "right person" with which to share our life journey has become the 20th and 21st Century equivalent of the medieval Search for the Holy Grail...

"If we don't have a primary relationship, we live haunted with self-doubt, questioning whether we are capable of intimacy and commitment, even questioning the value of life without it.

We yearn for the sacred marriage, the union of souls that will endure the passage of time. We long for a partner who offers a shady oasis in a hot, dry world; a mate who provides a refuge of acceptance and understanding. We dream about the sweetness of love and speak constantly to friends about the urgency of the quest...."

Short excerpt from Romancing The Shadow (Buy it now at Amazon.com) by Connie Zweig and Steve Wolf

And yet it often seems... the harder we search for this much sought after, much desired union of souls - the more elusive and frustrating our quest becomes.

Questions

• What in the heck is a soul mate?
• What does a soul mate look like?
• Would ya even know one if ya saw one? 
• And does astrology give any possible clues as to who might "feel" like a soul mate?

Okay... we'll get back to most of this in minute... but first, what's the story behind soul mates? And who is it that came up with the idea?

Split Aparts
The archetypal concept of soul mates is timeless and has probably existed for as long as humanity has…

However, the one individual most rightly credited with the concept in the Western World was the ancient Greek philosopher, Plato (427 BC – 348/347 BC)...

According to Plato's creation story as contained in the Symposium: In the beginning there was only one human. And this human was "created perfection."

The rather odd thing was that this first "created perfection" human had all the "necessary" male parts, as well as having all the "necessary" female parts (if you get my drift).

However, this perfect human (with all the "necessary" parts) was then tragically split apart – and since that time, the two halves (male parts and female parts) have been forever searching for one another in order to join together and regain their sense of original created wholeness.

"Each of us when separated, having one side only... is but indenture of a man, and he is always looking for his other half." Plato from the Symposium

That, my friend, is the bona fide traditonal Western idea behind the concept of soul mates… two halves looking to be made whole… (and yes, I know that's not a popular view of "healthy relationships" these days.)

And yes, before you write in attempting to educate me on the matter, I also know there are several rather
popular Neptunal "New Age" theories (such as twin souls and twin flames) floating around out there that are much more complex in nature and allegedly more ancient.

Definitions
Here are a couple of more current definitions of soul mates that I especially like and personally find helpful.

"A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life." Thomas Moore Soul Mates (Buy it now at Amazon.com)

And...

"As in a spiritual tradition, we are called on in the new 'tradition of two' to do 'soulwork' - to expand our souls, heal our past wounds, and evolve as humans... How do you know when you're with a soul mate? It's not a matter of magic. You know you're with a soul mate when you are both doing your soulwork...

Unfortunately, many potential soulmates get lost because they don't know how to do their soulwork together. They may linger in the popular definition, where upset feelings shouldn't happen, where upset is a bad sign. This explains why so many people feel they have been with a soul mate - but then, somehow, lost them." John and Bonney Grey, Becoming Soulmates

Using these inclusive and potentially wide sweeping definitions, it definitely sounds like one might actually encounter several soul mate connections during a lifetime? We do...

Zodiac Clues?
So, does astrology happen to offer any clues in the birth chart that might point to why you experience this sort of profound soul mate feeling connection with another person?

Maybe...

Paul and Linda McCartney
For many, Paul and Linda McCartney represented lovers who'd somehow managed to "get it right," during a turbulent period of history when so seemingly few of us were (and are) able to "get it right."

If these wonderful, gracious lovers, Paul and Linda McCartney, weren't soul mates - then I have nary an earthly clue about who might be...

Sun Sign Compatibility?
Unfortunately, (despite what you've previously heard to the contrary) the use of simple Sun Sign comparisons can only render up partial, incomplete answers to the question of who "feels" like a soul mate.

Sun Sign comparisons are a fine step in the right direction... but not every match between a Sun Sign Gemini (Paul) and a Sun Sign Libra (Linda) is going to end up feeling like a soul mate connection...

So - having previously written the following section containing my Top Six Soul Mate Clues -  I decided to put my Top Six Soul Mate Clues up against the ultimate soul mate test, where the rubber meets the road...

Because, as I just said... if these wonderful, gracious lovers, Paul and Linda McCartney, weren't soul mates - then I have nary an earthly clue about who might be...

Soul Mate Connection Clues
Astrological soul mate connection clues reflect inner-potentials of inexplicable (irrational) feelings related to a sense of fatedness, kinship, destiny, and deep emotional connection between the two people involved.

And perhaps, at this point, a few words of caution are necessary...

Experiencing a deep, soul mate connection with another person:

• is not a guarantee of an easy, smooth relationship or connection with that other person...
• is not a guarantee that the other person will be with you for the rest of this present incarnation on planet Earth.

As I was so aptly reminded, astrologer Steven Forrest has said (something to the effect) that sometimes soul mates kill each other... (Been there, done that...)

Dr Z's Top Six Soul Mate Clues
We're now about to cross over into an area of astrology called Synastry... Synastry is the comparison of "cross aspects" between the birth charts of two people.

Unfortunately, synastry (birth chart comparison) calls for at least a wee bit of previous knowledge about astrology and the comparison of cross aspects between charts. So this is obviously where a lot of folks are going to choose to gracefully bow out...

But novices, be brave and momentarily come along for the ride! If you do, then you might be able to start gaining a clearer picture of the intricate and complex details that we wild-eyed astrologers like to utilize when performing birth chart comparisons... it's a big part of why folks still willingly make that long, arduous trek to visit with a local astrologer, and then part with a few hard-earned "buckolas."

>> Continue to next page Dr Z's Top Six Soul Mate Clues
Featuring Paul and Linda McCartney Synastry Comparisons of the Top Six Soul Mate Clues.

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