as much as you can about symbolism;
then forget it all when you are analyzing a dream."
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6a - The Unknown
Same Sex Stranger
The "shadow" contains characteristics which were conscious at one time - and at some time or another during your early childhood development, you chose not to include these characteristics as being a part of who you are.
The "shadow" can be
or negativein nature.
An example of a positive shadow characteristic may be the quality of "bravery." It's a quality you admire greatly in other people, but for some reason you chose to believe it just wasn't in you to be a brave person. You didn't and don't believe it's within you to be a brave person.
shadow contains parts of you with whom you need to reconcile - need to
make friends with... Much of the shadow can be "redeemed" and
then integrated into to your daylight ego consciousness and rationality
(i.e. your self-concept of who you are).
Ask yourself some questions.... Is the unknown person in your dream angry at you? Is the unknown person happy with you? What sort of qualities did the stranger have which may have made you dislike them? Or on the other hand, what qualities did this unknown person have which you rather liked and admired and you wish you had these qualities as well?
The Unknown Opposite Sex Stranger
In Jungian terms, this neglected contra-sexual part of your psyche is called either (if you're a heterosexual male) the anima or (if you're a heterosexual female) the animus. On the journey within, the anima or animus are traditionally encountered much deeper within the "unconscious" than is the shadow, and thus they will probably never be completely brought out (and integrated) into your daylight ego consciousness and rationality (i.e. your self-concept of who you are).
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By anima Jung meant the unconscious feminine component in a man's personality, and by the term animus he designated the unconscious masculine component in a woman's personality. These two terms come from the Latin word animare, meaning "to enliven." This is because Jung felt that these archetypal figures functioned as enlivening souls or spirits to men and women.
If this anima or animus thing is a difficult concept for you to grasp, then let's look at it in a more practical way.
Most often in real, everyday, external, waking life - heterosexually orientated men tend to project out their inner-feminine anima onto the real, everyday, external women in their life (and the same goes for women tending to project out their inner-masculine animus). Been there, done that... As a guy, I can still very distinctly remember telling a certain woman who was busily in the process of dumping me - "I feel like I've lost my soul!"
Like the shadow, this contra-sexual stranger in your dreams can be of a positive or a negative nature. So in your dreams of the unknown opposite sex stranger, your anima or animus is crying out, "Hey there! Don't forget me! Live out my qualities in your own life! Don't give me away to someone else. If you live me out in your own life, then your life will be greatly enriched. However... if you continue to ignore me (by giving me away to someone else), then you'll be very, very sorry.
Again, ask yourself these questions... Is the unknown person in your dream angry at you? Is the unknown person happy with you? What sort of qualities did the stranger have which may have made you dislike them? Or on the other hand, what qualities did this unknown person have which you rather liked and admired and you wish you had these qualities as well?
* (Note to any gay visitors who just felt left out when reading Rule 6: While this is "unorthodox" to strict Jungian thought, my suggestion to you is try reversing the 6a Shadow and 6b anima and animus concepts. An example of reversing the concepts be would that a gay male might view opposite sex strangers as the Shadow, and same sex strangers as the anima. That's just my best guess, and I could easily be wrong on this. If it doesn't work for you, then forget I mentioned it and use whatever seems to work best for you.)
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